When you look back at your childhood, there are probably some experiences that you would like to change. The child in us still can hold on to those experiences especially the emotionally difficult ones.
These childhood wounds affect our adult lives and core beliefs about ourselves including feelings of not being smart enough good looking enough, worthy and deserving enough. At an unconscious level over time these wounds can dictate the relationships we choose, how successful we become, our professions, how we soothe our emotions, habits we acquire and how we treat our own children. Basically the path we take in life, our personality actions and what we believe.
If you want to change belief patterns that have held you back, look at your childhood. Most of us have had the experience of feeling that one part of us wants one thing and another part wants another. The parts that can hold us back due to fear and negative beliefs about ourselves are rooted in our wounded inner child.
It’s important that we acknowledge the child part of ourselves, which lived through the emotional and physical wounds of these experiences, without having a say or being protected. It’s understandable how we can get stuck in our ways, because it’s so ingrained.
When we acknowledge the part that wants happiness, success and peace of mind, we will often find it is in conflict with the fear, shame and guilt of the inner child.
Our wounded inner child can be gently guided and taught how these damaging and inappropriate messages given to them in childhood became their own inner voice. We can shed light on the fact that they do not have to own these self defeating ideas. They can then be open to identifying with more appropriate and healthy self images. Ideally we want is to be congruent with our hopes, dreams, desires and our inner belief that we are capable, worthy and deserving of making it happen. To me this is true peace of mind.